Coping with a sudden and unexpected miscarriage can be one of the most difficult things a woman can go through. Even though you didn’t hold your baby, you knew that he or she was growing inside you. You may imagined yourself as a mother and spent time thinking about this baby, the nursery and other details. And then, all the excitement abruptly came to a stop.
A range of emotions including sadness and grief over the loss; and, anger and resentment that it happened to you, are all completely normal. You may have trouble eating and sleeping at first and accepting the finality of it all. You may cry a lot, or you may not cry at all. These are all among the many natural, healthy responses to a pregnancy loss. Remember: Your reaction is what’s normal for you.
“Feeling confused or unsure about what happened, what to expect and what your next steps should be can make the situation even tougher,” says Dr. Shannon Price. “But at Affinity Physicians for Women, we can help you understand what’s happening – both physically and emotionally – and can help you through this time.”
By the time you learn that you had a miscarriage or ever see a doctor, the physical process might be mostly over. If you suspect a miscarriage, see your practitioner right away; you’ll probably have an ultrasound and possibly perform a pelvic exam to see if your cervix is dilated. Your doctor may also draw blood to check your hCG levels, your blood count (to determine how much blood was lost), and your blood type (to check for Rh incompatibility).
If your blood type is Rh negative, you may also receive a shot of Rh immunoglobulin (it’s possible for your blood to come into contact with fetal blood cells during a miscarriage — and this shot can prevent serious problems in later pregnancies).
Emptying the uterus
Once the miscarriage had been diagnosed, your uterus will need to be empty so your normal menstrual cycle can resume and you can try to get pregnant again, if you choose to. If your first sign of a miscarriage was heavy bleeding — especially if it was just a few weeks into pregnancy — then it’s possible that the miscarriage was “complete,” meaning all the fetal tissue has already been cleared out of your uterus. But sometimes — especially the later in the first trimester you are — a miscarriage isn’t complete, and your physician may recommend medicine or a D&C, a minor surgical procedure to completely empty the uterus.
Your emotions after miscarriage: The stages of grief
As we mentioned earlier, whenever a pregnancy loss happens, you’re likely to experience many feelings and reactions. Though you can’t wish them away, understanding them will eventually help you come to terms with your loss. Many people who suffer a loss of any type go through a number of steps on their road to emotional healing. Including shock and denial; guilt, anger, depression and despair before coming to acceptance. Please remember the grief you're feeling is real — and no matter how early in pregnancy you experienced the loss of a baby, you may feel that loss deeply.
If you’ve suffered a miscarriage, it’s important to remember that you have the right to grieve as much — or as little — as you need to. Do this in any way that helps you to heal and eventually move on.
Remind yourself that you can — and most likely will — become pregnant again if that’s your plan, and give birth to a healthy baby. For the vast majority of women, a miscarriage is a one-time event. The physicians and staff at Affinity Physicians for Women are here for you every step of the way – feel free to give us a call at any time.
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Source: American Pregnancy Association